Fatal Words

Came across a story and realised sometimes people to see the importance of control and sensorship or words.

Words can kill a million times more than actions. Words are deemed as emotional abuse.

The words may be uttered by any adult,  a parent, someone they loved most , a teacher, favorite relative, even a Scout leader.Coming from a trusted someone, can hit as hard as a fist, sometimes much harder. Although no bones arebroken, but the words leave vicious emotional scars. Inflicted repeatedly for months or years, thebruises heal slowly and can shatter a youngster's self-image, turning the person into an emotional cripple for life.

There are many forms of emotional abuse all have this description in common: The victims are people who have their personalities attacked, and sense of personal value is undermined. They are usually left
feeling unloved, unsafe, and not feeling worthwhile.

How harmful is emotional abuse compared to physical abuse? - based on a research article .
People, can't show their scars right away, so the abuse usually continues longer than
physical abuse, much the same as sexual abuse goes on for a longtime because the person who is abused is afraid to tell anyone. As a result, the scars fromboth emotional and sexual abuse are often deeper and more hidden, and come back to haunt people later in their lives.

I came acrossed this story ,

A boy proposed his girlfriend for marriage, He did all the romantic things ......

Girl: Tell me... who do you love most in this world..?
Boy: You, of course!
Girl: what am I to you?
Boy: The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said "u r missing part of my heart".

 She smiled,and she accepted his proposal. ♥ After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while.However,the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems...their life became difficult. All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to drift away deir dreams and love for each other...The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became make their relation more worst.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house.... At the opposite side of the
road, she shouted,"You don't love me...!"

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, said,"May be, it was a mistake for us to
be together..! You were never da missing part of my ♥ ...!"

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while.... He regretted what he said but
words spoken cant be taken back. With tears in her eyes, she went home to pack her things and Before leaving the house,she left a note for him: "If I'm really not the missing part of ur ♥, let me go..n search for someone who is...It is less painful this way...let us go on our separate ways and
search for our own partners..."

Five years went by... He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly..... . She had left the country and was living her dreams. He use to regret on what he did but never tried to
bring her back.. In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his
heart.He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.....

One day, they finally met.... At the airport, He was going away on a business trip .He saw
her,She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you ?
Girl: I'm fine. How about you... Have you found your heart's missing part...?
Boy: No.
Girl: I'll be flying to New York in the next flight.
Boy: I'll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back...You know my number... Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved goodbye..
"Good-bye . . ."

Same evening he heard of a plane crash which was headed to New York.He tried to know about her and found that,She died.

Midnight..... Once again, he lit his cigarette..... And like before, he felt the lingering ache in
his heart.... He finally knew, she was that missing part that he had carelessly broken ....

Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury..... Most often , the outcome is disastrous and fatal at tyms.... We take out our 99% frustrations at our loved ones.... And even though we know that we ought to"think twice and act wisely", we actually dont do it. Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control. Try not to hurt ur loved once,because of a moment of anger
could b a lifetym punishment...

Treasure and Cherish those Dear to your heart.
Words kill, words give life ; they're either poison or fruit - you choose ( proverbs 18:21 the message )

Hope in Despairs

"The loneliest moment in life is when you have just experienced that which you thought would deliver the ultimate, and it has just let you down." – Ravi Zacharias

"When the music’s over, turn out the light." – The Doors

What do you do when your cherished fantasies dissolve, or resolve into unsatisfying reality?

What are we living for when our "ultimate" fails to live up to expectations and lets us down?

What hope do you cling to when the concept that you find so compelling and important is disregarded by those who need it most?

How do you handle the realization that you cannot change the world, and your spit in the ocean feels so insignificant?

What happens when the acquisition of knowledge fails to satisfy or give enough answers?

What do you do when your youth and beauty fade, and you are left, mid-life, looking backwards?

When the temporary satiation of an addiction leaves you feeling spent and used, and the effects diminished, how do you deal handle the disappointment? What is the next level, the further hope beyond what has let us down so far, that we cling to as the "real" ultimate? Can we afford to let ourselves hope again?

The Answer ......

The hole left by collapsed dreams, hopes, and fantasies is God-shaped, and anything else that promises to fill it is a counterfeit, a sin, and/or a misapplication of some "good" that isn’t meant to be so glorified.

Count your blessings

What have God given to me ? isnt this a question many people tend to ask themselves?

sometimes people tend to think its unfair seeing the bad guys getting all the blessings. But how often did you look hard into the changes and surprises you recieved.

It is written,

“And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work”(2 Corinthians 9:8, NIV)

I realised, you might not get what you pray for, but it doesnt mean that God has forgotten about you. I took a look at my surroundings and found many things that contribute to my happiness. And then you will start to realise you have many things. Just not the one you might be looking for.

Over the last few days, the most predominant thought or rather feeling has been of plentitude. Life has a strange way of having sooo much of everything.
So much work; so much spare time; so much activity; so much rest; so much of longing; so much of dispassion; so much of everything; so much of nothing...
In fact as I realized, even the feeling of neglect and lack is in plenty. Most people really feel the lack or dearth in life. And that this feeling is so strong and so deep. It doesn’t come superficially-
it comes like a gushing wave and sweeps over us. That’s life!

Sometimes i feel that all that matters is what use we put it to. How we choose to see things.
We have this power so profound working all the time. Have we ever wonder that we haven’t mastered the art of making ourselves happy with what we have.

To us it may just be something small like a seed. But i realise that the seed contains in itself the tree, the fruit, the leaves, the branches, the buds and the flowers.

Today, you may be thinking, “I’m not blessed. I’m not confident. I’m not healthy. I’m not favored.” But when God says you’re blessed, don’t try to figure it out. Just agree with God and say, “I am blessed.” When God calls you prosperous, don’t go check your bank account. Don’t go look at the stock report. Just agree with God and say, “I am prosperous.” Things may look impossible. That’s all right. live a simple life Dont complicate things and things will turn out fine.

when you agree with God, you are positioning yourself for a miracle. We serve a God of abundance! He is more than enough! No matter what is on your “plate” of life, God wants to pour out His abundant grace upon you.

Thank God for the little things i over looked.